They continue to use because they do not know how to stop, and they need the substance to function. There is such a stigma attached to addiction, especially when it comes to young people and addiction.
Being patient with your loved one involves learning about what they are going through, and not judging them for it. Many families are too ashamed to talk about the problem, even though it is a family disease. Luckily, there are families that are upfront about struggles with substance abuse.
Social media is one platform family members utilize to get people to be open about addiction and share their stories. Many addicts who are suffering from addiction are simply in denial about the extent of their problem.
Some may be literally forced into involuntary detox due to a court order, an arrest, or hospitalization, among other reasons.
While this form of coerced treatment works for some addicts, it is the antithesis of recovery. Of an important person when you are trying to help an addict: YOU.
Lasting recovery for most people involves long term treatment by their own free will and choice. You want to be as supportive as you can to your loved one, but you do want to avoid being an enabler. Providing financial support and rescuing them in legal matters are just some of the ways. If they do not want help, it does not mean that you cannot get help for yourself.
I was the PTO mom, the carpool mom, the Brownie leader.
We ate family dinners at the table, taught our children manners and took family vacations.
If they are not ready now, it does not mean that they will not be ready later on. Sometimes, that is all we can do for the time being.
While you cannot convince someone to get help, there are some things you can to help an addict who does not want help.
Do not lose hope because no one is beyond recovery.
The stereotypical hippie from the 60’s and 70’s that grew up in a bad home. We lived in the suburbs where “that just didn’t happen around here”.
I had preconceived notions that you had to stay away from them…that they were BAD PEOPLE. BOY WAS I WRONG Now, addiction has a multitude of faces.